Some friendships are made in heaven... but this friendship was made in front of a tv. Dennis and I met at church, but we became friends because of our undergraduate love of the playstation, particularly Tekken 3.
We lived in the same cluster in McMahon. Dennis lived in the room opposite me and we shared a communal living space. We would play late into the morning, skipping classes, study groups and occasionally church.
His favorite character was Paul, an eraser-haired biker in a red karate gi, he was a heavy-hitter and excelled in reversing attacks. My character of choice was Ling Xiaoyou, a Japanese school girl in the fetish outfit, complete with baggy socks. She was a light hitter, the complete opposite of Paul.
We would have grudge matches, playing until our fingers were sore and your unblinking eyes were dry. We usually played the best of 99 matches, so that the first person to 50 wins won. What a waste of time.
But Dennis was always willing to play. I think that's a trait that defined him as a friend, always willing. He was always willing to waste time with you. Always willing to drive. Always willing to listen and sympathize. Always willing to laugh. Always willing to help out.
It's been two months now since he passed away. It still doesn't seem real. Sometimes it still feels like I should include him on emails and I should still forward him funny things I find on the internet. Even going to Bartell's makes me think of him and his harem of pharmacy girls.
So, in Dennis tradition, here's a top ten list of things I miss.
10. The gaze. When left alone, he'd go into screen saver mode and just stare off into the distance.
9. The crossover. He had this little hop when playing basketball.
8. He was always a great accomplice. Whenever there was a scheme to cause some mischief, he was there to partake. He was a great enabler... video games... drinking... gambling... wasting time.
7. His drive. Dennis was always driven at school, even when we were making him waste time with us. He would stay up 40 hours at a time working on projects and then pass out for 20 hours.
6. He has this cackle. unmistakable.
5. His support. Like I said, he was an enabler, but it wasn't always about "bad things". He would hold you accountable for things, making sure that you met spiritual goals you set for yourself.
4. He was never judgmental. He accepted you as you are and always found a way to make you feel welcome and comfortable.
3. The cheerful target. Even when he was butt of the joke, he'd laugh and play along. I have dozens of memories of playing little jokes on him because he always made it more fun.
2. good memories. Dennis was a "good-memory magnet". I don't think I ever had a sad memory of him, which makes the sadness of way he died seem so disconnected from the way he lived.
1. His strength. I never appreciated it until the end.